Many of the religious or secular views of humanity liken the perfect adaptation among other people to the relation of brotherhood. They suggest or hope that a perfect communion between humans must to involve the affection felt by the members of a family.
Such conception is not totally wrong. It is desirable to feel at home among people, but not for benefiting of the warmness of that communion. Our peaceful interrelations are not defined by love, but by a feeling of comfort which is much closed to that we live at home. It is primarily the comfort to see each individual with the thought that it is indifferent if he or she is alive (also, our home is the last place which bothers us about our presence into it).
The thought is consolidated during the everyday experience of meeting different people to whom we have only circumstantial relations.
Therefore, one’s resistance to have a perfect social life cannot be only a lack of sympathy for other people. In many cases, the first cause is dissatisfaction with that alternative of the indifference. Some people wish for living a life which clearly involves or refutes others’ life. Even if this desire is caused by a positive attitude to other people, it is received by them as an act of violence.
(Who could establish if someone who publicly shows his or her sexual perversity and so wants to take part in others’ life is a worse lover of humanity than a kind preacher of love who spreads out words to indifferent masses, but he keeps himself safety under the common thought of indifference?).