Since we live the most time of our days without any notable event, we should admit that the day is not a correct measure for our life.
It is only a desirable measure. We want lo live as if the cosmic division of time would enter our lives with almost the same force of acting. But the days with no notable events cannot be counted as parts of life when we really act. They are periods of survival.
The survival has not its own measure: it is the time whence we avoided a danger or we got a relief to the time when we encountered another danger or relief.
Thus, our life borrows the measure belonging to the bad or good events we seldom live. As like as we prefer to believe that the days measure our life, we like to live by extending the past events beyond their real meaning. We imagine that they spread their good or bad value over the neuter time of survival.
Though, the survival itself seems to impose the values of the events, since it occupies the longest duration of our life. If we do not realize that we live a time of survival and conceive it as an intermediate expectation of some events, the events convey positive feelings, even if they have a bad meaning [for instance, the death of a relative comes to be felt as a positive occasion for showing our importance at the funeral]. On the contrary, a deep consciousness that we survive most of our time minimizes the importance of any event or increases the negative feelings concerning a bad one.