Perhaps, a tolerant society uses the same coercive force as a dictatorial one: both of them forcibly expose the individual persons in the public space.
In a dictatorial regime, people are forced to admit the official ideology of the government and thus to renounce to their personal beliefs for those which are publicly displayed. Though, the people are free to keep their beliefs secretly making use of the natural privacy of human mind. Therefore, a dictatorial regime cannot have a real success if it does not try the almost impossible task of modifying the natural endowment of humans with the privacy of their minds.
Meanwhile, the tolerant societies do not impose doctrines, but encourage people to transform their peculiarities into public affairs. Surely, any human being would choose to not be afraid of showing its peculiarities in the society, but it does not mean that the people who are different from the majority of population really want to be simple items of the public acceptance.
For instance, a peculiarity like homosexuality may be a personal drama in the privacy of someone’s mind: the drama of assuming the bodily orientation toward refuting the predominant pattern of heterosexual love. The tolerant society cut out the dramatic feelings of heterosexual love by including the homosexuals into the social accepted pattern of that sexual orientation. It is a desirable pattern because it frees from the fears of showing the peculiarities in the public space, but it is a pattern which is taken to the detriment of the privacy of human mind.