If we could remember our birth by ourselves, then it would be possible to say that we possess a whole grip on our life.
Because we cannot do this, we are not acquainted with one of our essential posture, which has both a physical and spiritual nature. Namely, it is the posture of being totally handled and possessed by anybody else. We can hear about it in the stories or images of our birth, but we do not realize that we started from it and all our future life stayed at first in it. In other words, it is the posture in which the body is totally closed, so that it cannot initiate any action.
Due to that lack of memory, the occurrences of the same posture in the adult life are conceived as experiences, not as manifestations of our very being. Such occurrences are primarily observed in sleep and sex. For instance, we say that we take a sleep or sleep as being an action we do, not a part of ourselves. Also, we disregard what our dreams talk about us, as if they would be something different from us.
In sexual activity, we are often handled and possessed, but we ignore those instances of feeling the closed posture of the body, because the pleasure is felt as an openness of it. Similarly, we are bent on seeing the sex as being as something which we do, not as an aspect of our life, especially because the persons who are definable by their sexual activity have a bad reputation in all human cultures.
With such a history of disregarding the closures of our body as aspects belonging essential to us, we generally see the perspective of dying – the final closure – as something strange to us. The human mind cannot really understand how the personal body could be totally handled and possessed by the living ones, as well as it cannot remember the birth.
From other persons or from handbooks about sexuality we can find out that our birth derived from the largest openness of a human body. It was mother’s body, so of somebody else. Our death follows the same pattern: the closed and dead body absorbs us in ourselves and leaves away the opened bodies of the living ones, so of somebody else.